Written by the Renew & Revitalize Life Coaching Team
Grief is a powerful process in which your mind – as well as your psyche and even your body – must recover from loss. According to a survey performed by WebMD, a full 58% of people considered themselves to be struggling with a loss that had taken place over the past three years. The takeaway, of course, is that you are not alone in grieving. However, how do you know when it’s time to consider changing how you’ve been addressing your feelings of grief?
Signs You Should See a Grief Coach?
Some people attempt to handle feelings of grief and loss on their own – and many of those do just fine. However, others find that utilizing support resources like a grief and loss coach can help cope with grief in a healthier way. Here are some signs you should consider seeking a grief and loss coach:
- It’s hard to get through the day. After tremendous loss, very few people are able to return immediately to the activities of daily life. Even when you do begin your return, it’s completely normal to feel unmoored for a while. However, if it’s been several weeks or months since your loss and the thought of tackling the laundry or doing the dishes seems impossible, it may be time to seek coaching.
- You feel tremendous guilt. Whether you feel you could have said or done something to prevent the death of a loved one, or otherwise feel responsible, this feeling (referred to as “survivor’s guilt”) is quite common. However, guilty feelings should begin to recede after some time and shouldn’t get to a level where they are debilitating. If you’re experiencing intrusive guilt over your loss, grief and loss coaching may be able to help.
- You’re leaning on unhealthy habits to cope. There’s not really a wrong way to grieve, says Donna Schuurman, senior director of advocacy and training at Portland, Oregon’s Dougy Center; “Many of us have the misperception that there’s a right way to grieve, and most people think they’re doing it wrong,” However, continuously relying on temporary means to block out or numb feelings of grief such as drugs or alcohol, can not only cause negative feelings to come back even stronger – they can have harmful effects on your body as well. If you’ve found yourself seeking unhealthy habits to alleviate grief, it could be time to consider the help of a grief and loss coach.
- You’ve had feelings of harming yourself or others. First things first – if you are currently feeling the urge to harm yourself or someone else, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. If you’ve found that your thoughts of self-harm are fleeting or may be triggering depression, simply speaking with a grief and loss coach may help. Working with a grief and loss coach can help you move on from harmful thoughts and find a better outlet for your grief.
Grief is a personal process that no two people experience in the same way or for the same amount of time. Give yourself some time to learn how to cope with what will become your new normal after your loss. Seeking the assistance of a grief and loss coach can help you navigate this process safely and with an eye towards your mental and physical health.
If you need a grief and loss coach, Patricia Isaacson, based in Leesburg, Florida, services areas throughout Florida, including Orlando, Tampa, Gainesville, Ocala and Jacksonville, Florida. She also service clients throughout the United States via Skype or Zoom.